Too often people underestimate the roller coaster ride of emotions and sensations that come with maintaining a long-distance relationship. In a world run by text messages and social media updates, it can be all too easy to become detached, to put more than miles between yourself and your partner.

Valentine’s Day is the romantic version of tightrope walking across Niagara Falls when two people are a world away from each other. Each has to watch as friends and family enjoy their own close bonds and giant gestures; as strangers turn heads and elicit awes from an endearing audience; and as comforts as simple as a hug are happening to all but themselves.

Close the gap. Instead of hoping to avoid plunging into icy waters and hitting the rocks below, take over the day and steer yourself toward safety. One way to do this is by ordering flowers, a clichè that never fails.

Guys, instead of a big chain store, find that small little shop close to her neighborhood and make a personal call. If you do this enough times you might fall onto a first name basis with the owner–someone who may be willing to do you a favor now and then.

Girls, this might surprise you, but sometimes a letter can go a long way from you, too. Just because the typical male might avoid really analyzing his feelings doesn’t mean he won’t appreciate knowing why you have any for him.

It won’t do anyone any good to radiate jealousy at the fancy dinners around you or to go to the movies only to brood in the back corner about the hopelessness of love.

Instead you might recognize the strength that it takes from both you and your partner to get through Valentine’s Day just like any other.

There is a reason that most people think it is impossible to make a long-distance relationship work. Focus on what you and your partner do have, beyond physical proximity, and prove everyone else wrong.